An excellent blog, Art of Manliness, has written a post about how to have an affair-free marriage. Though I’m “just a college student” and “far from marrying,” and you may be too, I think this applies to us as well. A romantic relationship should be pursuing marriage as a tangible and realistic goal. As such, character traits and habits needed in a marriage should be cultivated before (read: not sex).

Porn: It’s Dangerous Stuff

Yes, dangerous. Caustic. Not don’t-touch-hot-stove dangerous but vat-of-acid dangerous.

In this article, the author talks about one way we corrupt our marriage is through watching pornography. Yeah, yeah, we all know it’s bad, but he spells it out:

Quit the porn. Bringing porn into a relationship is not healthy. It’s like bringing another woman into your marriage, except she’s glossy and airbrushed. Porn will only create an unrealistic expectation in your mind about your spouse’s libido, body, and comfort level with weird sex positions. Pretty soon you’ll find that your wife isn’t satisfying you and your eyes will start to wander. Dump the porn.

There. You heard it. One of the first steps to cheating on your spouse is porn. In fact, it already is cheating. It’s being unsatisfied with your wife and wanting more, more of —— to satisfy me: it’s the decay of love into an elaborate self-gratification. And that is the doorway to an affair. Changes things a bit, doesn’t it, the idea of sowing the seeds of infidelity?

Thing to Think About

The first step to cutting (as much as we can) sin in our lives is to recognize how bad it is (I wrote at length earlier about how bad sin is and how it hamper our prayer lives) and to ask God to make us hate the things He hates (sin) and love the things He loves.

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